My husband and I celebrated our first wedding anniversary on November 24, 2007. I initiated a “State of the Union” conversation because I have sensed more than normal tension in the atmosphere lately. Apparently, his biggest complaint is the state of our atmosphere–more specifically, our messy (if you talk to me) or filthy (according to the husband) house. He gets stressed out by the clutter and dirty floor, but cannot or will not articulate this in a constructive manner. The byproduct for me is the feeling that he is unsatisfied and that I am a failure. The shocking truth is that I do want to please my husband and make him happy. While I may not have exactly the same viewpoint, (Maybe my glasses are too dirty to see clearly.) I will admit that I have a lot of room for growth and improvement.
To that end, I have been doing some thinking about marital roles and responsibilities. Unfortunately, I have been unable to find an updated version of Beeton’s Guide to Household Management that provides instructions on how to be a 21st Century Housewife. However, I have decided that every man’s fantasy wife is June Cleaver from 5 AM-9 PM to take care of his home and children
and have Jenna Jameson from 9 PM-5 AM to take care of him.
Putting the fantasy aside, I want to learn how to be the woman that my family needs. This is meant to be a chronicle of that journey.
